This is why I started this blog.  This is what I hope to impart on my followers.

YOUR perfect person is out there.

See, the Universe (or whoever you believe in) knows this.  We just sometimes do not.  We date different people and, unless you are married or in a committed relationship, we keep dating.  Obviously, these people are not who the Universe has in store for us.  These people are just in our lives to show us what we want or do not want.  Yeah it hurts and we can’t understand why we don’t get the one we think we want.  Sometimes the Universe will show us why we are not meant to be with that certain person, but sometimes it does not.  It is not the Universe’s job to continually show us, it is its job to just get us to where it wants us to be, that’s what it is busy doing.  You have to have faith that there is a reason and an eventual end to the lessons we must learn.  I know some of us feel as though we have been through enough lessons, but that may just not be the case.  We can learn from someone something that we like, and that we would like to have in our eventual mate.  These attributes we put into our ‘emotional vortex’ or, in other words, our list of our perfect mate.  Sometimes we learn something that we do not want.  This is to show you the ‘contrast’ or, in other words, what we do not want in our eventual mate.  It’s kind of like taking 10 outfits into the dressing room with you.  You try everything on and make a yes or a no pile.  My mother once said to me “Your perfect person is standing across the street from you.  Stop putting the wrong people in the middle of the road.”  Yeah, she’s a pretty smart woman.  Don’t hold on to the wrong person, or try to mold him or her into what you want.  All you are doing is delaying your inevitable happiness.  One of my friends was explaining to me the other day about a new guy that she is dating.  She said something along the lines of “I hate to say this, but [my guy now] does such-and-such and I like it, it reminds me of something [my ex] used to do, but I don’t want to compare them.”  She is not comparing them, THIS IS PROOF!!!  She put into her emotional vortex an attribute that she liked from someone she dated and the Universe gave her a guy that had that same quality.  Now, this isn’t to say that she will end up with the current guy, or she may, but it shows that the Universe is there and it is listening!  We just have to get to the point where we have learned everything that we want for ourselves and we understand the things that we do not.  It’s not a fate thing, you have to go out there and learn!  All I can say is that when you put out into the Universe the kind of person you want, it will deliver it.  We have to be patient.  It’s not easy and I have to remind myself of this a lot…especially after I have dealt with a ‘contrast’ guy.  But, sometimes it’s helpful to know that we are being taken care of.   The Universe knows what it is doing, even if we don’t.  And, try to listen to the Universe when it’s being painfully obvious in trying to show you that it does not want you with the person you are currently settling for.  It’s so interesting to look back at some of my dating experiences and see that no matter what I tried, I just couldn’t get the person I THOUGHT I wanted.  It was so frustrating, but it was just the Universe stepping in and helping me out.  It was making sure that I couldn’t get the one that wasn’t right for me so that I could keep myself open for the one that is.  So, go out and date and put things in your yes and no pile.

 Understand this:

The person you were unable to get no matter how hard you tried, or the person that you miss because you think you should have been with him or her was not your perfect person, it just doesn’t work that way!