One thing I know about myself is that I tend to give people too many chances.

I am a fair person and I like to see the best in everyone.  I know this is a good trait for the most part, but it does make it hard to see that someone is just not worth the many chances I give him or her.

I am a trusting person.  I let someone start out at 100% and allow him or her to prove to me that he or she isn’t worth the 100%.  But, like I mentioned before, I don’t always believe that the person isn’t really worth it.

I will do everything I can to explain away the person’s actions.  I will give him or her the benefit of the doubt and continue to give chances so he or she doesn’t slip below what I thought he or she was worth.

This is my fault and I need to start watching and listening more.  When I pay attention I can see that The Universe is really trying to throw it in my face when I need to just let the person go.  I need to stop giving people chances when it is so painfully obvious that he or she no longer deserves them.

I cannot even tell you some of the crazy things I come up with to explain another person’s actions.  And I am referring to friends more than I am to boyfriends.  I am getting so much better in realizing when a guy I am trying to date is just not right for me.  But, friendships are much harder for me to do this with.

I can think of so many examples of when I kept someone in my life much longer than was healthy for me.  It is just so hard for me to cut someone out of my life when I care for him or her.  I want so badly for the person to see what I see in him or her and to take the opportunity I am giving to better the situation.  But, I know now that it’s really The Universe watching out for me and forcing me to understand that the person should not be in my life.  Again, this does not mean that the person is bad in general, just bad for my life and for what I am striving to do and for who I am striving to be.

It’s so hard to let people go who have been in my life for any period of time.  But, I also have to realize that I am not meant to be in their life either.  Their Universe is watching out for them too and I am not a cooperative component in their life either.

So, I need to work on this better, I need to pay attention better and trust in what the person is trying to show me and what The Universe wants for me.

It’s a slow and painful process, but by just realizing it, I have a feeling I will become better at it.

Maybe this is something you should try too…