   We’ve all done it…fallen for someone who just isn’t right.  So, we casually walk away and move on…YEAH RIGHT!!!  Most of us have at one time or another stayed and pushed and pulled and turned into someone we don’t even recognize anymore.  Sometimes you have to look at yourself and decide that you are worth more than how the other person is handling you.  Now, this isn’t to say that he or she is mishandling you, it may just not be up to the level that you require/want/need/deserve.  This is where you have to make the decision: Is this enough for me?  And, then you have to do it…WALK AWAY!  Understand that you have to love yourself more than you love the other person.  You have to love yourself for LIFE, he or she may only love you for a short amount of time.  In other words, how you feel is what is most important, not doing whatever it takes to keep the other person around!  You have to do what’s right for you.  No, it probably won’t be what you want and it’s going to hurt like hell, but you HAVE to do it!  Stand up for yourself because he or she has already proved that they aren’t going to do it for you!
“In relationships, be it friend, family or lover,
 some people give you everything theyâre possibly capable of or all they know how to giveâŚ
you just have to decide if itâs enough for you.”
~Me~Â
Now for the part where I shamelessly steal from someone else đ
   The following comes from a sweet, sweet girl named Brooke (no, not my sister) who doesn’t deserve to be treated as anything other than the amazing person she is.  She deserves everything she has ever wanted.  Sound familiar?  She wrote this about her situation and it practically mirrored what I had gone through.  So, I figured, if she and I are both going through the exact same thing, I would imagine many more people are.  So, I asked her permission and am now sharing it with you.
Enjoy, I know I did…wait, I didn’t enjoy, that’s just cruel. Â How about this…sometimes it’s nice to know you aren’t the only one.
closure
Once upon a time, in a land called BTAY land, there lived a fair maiden who fell hard for a boy. Then one day in the summer of 2010, the boy became a staple in the girlâs life, just as suddenly as he had come into her world, her world was turned upside down. Knowing how rare chances at love are, the girl finally took a deep breath, looked him in the eye, and told the boy how she felt time and time again. To her surprise, her admission of love bought her not the ticket to the Love train she was hoping for, but instead a lifetime pass to Relationship Purgatory. He was up, he was down, he was in, he was out, he was yes, he was no, he was there he would disappear. He was into her just enough that he didnât want to let her go but not into her enough to do what it took to hang onto her.
The girl was me. And the boyâŚwell, he knows who he is.
There comes a moment in every relationship when taking up permanent residence in the gray area between what is and what isnât is no longer enough. When the need for clarity surpasses the need to make things work no matter how much of yourself you have to sacrifice to do so. When you start to realize that the constant limbo of an undefined relationship isnât as fun as it was when it first started. And when you have to seek your own closure when the other person cannot or will not give it to you.
Thatâs the thing, you know. Until we are willing to close the book on what was, itâs impossible to fully embrace what will be. Sometimes all we need is a push in the right direction by a few good friends to give us the courage we need to surrender our will to that of God, and fate.
Maybe at the end of the day, all we can do is cling to what completes us (like our best friends) and release what depletes us (like a guy who canât see the crown jewel standing right in front of him). Maybe when a romantic interest canât decide if they want to love us or not, we take away their right to leave us stranded in Relationship Purgatory for even one more minute. After all, shouldnât there be a few limitations on how long a person gets to take deciding whether or not they want to love us and let us knowâŚor gently let us go? Sometimes in life we have to create our own closure. Sometimes we have to decide when enough is enough and walk away. So whether you try a love cleanse, or have a bonfire with all the things that remind you of that person like Monica, Rachel and Phoebe once did on Friends â it helps you to find a way to peacefully close the door on the past so you can walk away with your head held high and with no regrets.Because at the end of the day, sometimes it takes opening a door to get to a new place⌠âŚand sometimes it takes closing one!
Thoughts With Wings 