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The Universe has such great advice.
It’s not as if one could be bored enough, feel frustrated enough, or complain enough that their life would suddenly turn around. Doesn’t work that way.
Whatever anyone “is” they become more of. And anyone’s is’ness is whatever they say it is.
Happily,
The Universe
It’s a marathon not a sprint.
One thing I know about myself is that I tend to give people too many chances.
I am a fair person and I like to see the best in everyone. I know this is a good trait for the most part, but it does make it hard to see that someone is just not worth the many chances I give him or her.
I am a trusting person. I let someone start out at 100% and allow him or her to prove to me that he or she isn’t worth the 100%. But, like I mentioned before, I don’t always believe that the person isn’t really worth it.
I will do everything I can to explain away the person’s actions. I will give him or her the benefit of the doubt and continue to give chances so he or she doesn’t slip below what I thought he or she was worth.
This is my fault and I need to start watching and listening more. When I pay attention I can see that The Universe is really trying to throw it in my face when I need to just let the person go. I need to stop giving people chances when it is so painfully obvious that he or she no longer deserves them.
I cannot even tell you some of the crazy things I come up with to explain another person’s actions. And I am referring to friends more than I am to boyfriends. I am getting so much better in realizing when a guy I am trying to date is just not right for me. But, friendships are much harder for me to do this with.
I can think of so many examples of when I kept someone in my life much longer than was healthy for me. It is just so hard for me to cut someone out of my life when I care for him or her. I want so badly for the person to see what I see in him or her and to take the opportunity I am giving to better the situation. But, I know now that it’s really The Universe watching out for me and forcing me to understand that the person should not be in my life. Again, this does not mean that the person is bad in general, just bad for my life and for what I am striving to do and for who I am striving to be.
It’s so hard to let people go who have been in my life for any period of time. But, I also have to realize that I am not meant to be in their life either. Their Universe is watching out for them too and I am not a cooperative component in their life either.
So, I need to work on this better, I need to pay attention better and trust in what the person is trying to show me and what The Universe wants for me.
It’s a slow and painful process, but by just realizing it, I have a feeling I will become better at it.
Maybe this is something you should try too…
Do it…The Universe said so!
Get out, get out, get out even more! Because there are people you’ve yet to meet, laughs you’ve yet to share, stories you’ve yet to live, and riches you’ve yet to tap into, that will not find you under any other circumstances.
Besides, how else can I shower you with surprises?
~The Universe~
Just passing along some AH tips :)
1. Take 15 minutes a day to remember who you really are (powerful, loving, creative spirit, in case you forgot). Our entire society programs us to feel powerless. Counter this insidious trend by reading, watching or listening to something each day that reminds you of the truth.
2. When it feels like a big exhausting struggle, stop. The Universe does not make things difficult. Our lack of alignment with spirit makes things hard. When you’re struggling, you’re out of alignment and the more you struggle, the deeper you dig a hole of negative emotion. So… stop! Even if all you do is take a walk or watch a funny movie, you will release resistance, which immediately aligns you with your Vortex.
3. Refuse to play the comparison game. We too often compare ourselves to others we consider to be super successful. Then we feel inadequate or sometimes even ‘cursed.’ Comparison leads to judgment of self and others and is an ego game that wastes your time and energy. You are always in your right place, and you have a choice in every single moment to love and encourage yourself. Loving yourself gets you into the Vortex, comparing and criticizing yourself (or others) “spits you right out again” (as Abraham likes to say).
4. Pay attention to how you feel. Abraham through Jerry and Esther Hicks teaches that our innate guidance system is emotional. Feel good and you are in the Vortex. Feel bad and you are not. Many people have little to no awareness of their feelings or like to think they feel good when they don’t. Law of Attraction is essentially a path to greater self awareness. It all starts with awareness of how you feel. If you’re not already tuned into this, start by checking in with yourself a few times a day. Ask: how am I feeling right now? That is the most powerful question to ask if you want improved results in your life and work.
5. When you feel bad, do something about it. Most of us believe it is OK, even “spiritual,” to tolerate a little frustration or tension or humiliation or overwhelm (etc.). This is not true, according to the Law of Attraction. Very low levels of chronically stressful feelings are the biggest cause of disappointing manifestations. “So stop it!” (as Abraham says). When you feel anything less than good, go back to steps 1, 2, and 3 to get your thoughts on an authentically positive track.
6. Use gentle affirmations and self talk. Do your affirmations, goals, and self talk sound like military commands? “By March 2012 I will quadruple my monthly income.” “I now exercise 2 hours a day and eat only healthy foods.” “I meet my soul mate and marry her/him by December 2012.” Yes, I know, goal-setting courses tell us we must be specific. And that can work – especially if you’re already pretty close to what your goal is. But big goals don’t always manifest on our timetable. If your affirmations and self talk feel stressful, choose language that’s more gentle. “I want to feel my financial well-being” is a beautiful (and effective) gentle manifestation. So is “I am ready to choose more healthy foods and daily exercise.” Or “I am attractive to my soul mate and allow the universe to find the best way to connect us.” Abraham calls this “going general.” It works!
7. If you feel stuck, get help. The most successful business owners not only get help with the business (accountants, virtual assistants), they also get help at home (housecleaning services, concierge services). AND if they’re really smart and successful, they get accountability help – people who support them in defining and reaching their goals (the coaching profession was created for this!). Even if you think you don’t have money for any of these “extras,” denying yourself help costs you far more than investing money in effective support.
Another note from The Universe
Today, just do a little bit so that I can do a lot of bit.
That’s how it works.
Huge love,
The Universe
Notes from The Universe
If I told you there have been no mistakes,
that I understand every decision you’ve ever made,
and that the challenges you’ve faced, you’ve faced
for everyone, would you listen?If I told you that what you dream of, I dream of for you,
that the only things “meant to be” are what you decide
upon, and that all that stands between you and the life
of your dreams are the thoughts you choose
to think, would you try to understand?And if I told you that you are never alone,
that there are angels who sing your name in praise,
and that I couldn’t possibly be any more proud of you
than I already am, would you believe me?Would you? Even if I pulled your leg, made you blush,
and winked between the lines?Then I shall…
The Universe
The BIG ONE!
This is why I started this blog. This is what I hope to impart on my followers.
YOUR perfect person is out there.
See, the Universe (or whoever you believe in) knows this. We just sometimes do not. We date different people and, unless you are married or in a committed relationship, we keep dating. Obviously, these people are not who the Universe has in store for us. These people are just in our lives to show us what we want or do not want. Yeah it hurts and we can’t understand why we don’t get the one we think we want. Sometimes the Universe will show us why we are not meant to be with that certain person, but sometimes it does not. It is not the Universe’s job to continually show us, it is its job to just get us to where it wants us to be, that’s what it is busy doing. You have to have faith that there is a reason and an eventual end to the lessons we must learn. I know some of us feel as though we have been through enough lessons, but that may just not be the case. We can learn from someone something that we like, and that we would like to have in our eventual mate. These attributes we put into our ‘emotional vortex’ or, in other words, our list of our perfect mate. Sometimes we learn something that we do not want. This is to show you the ‘contrast’ or, in other words, what we do not want in our eventual mate. It’s kind of like taking 10 outfits into the dressing room with you. You try everything on and make a yes or a no pile. My mother once said to me “Your perfect person is standing across the street from you. Stop putting the wrong people in the middle of the road.” Yeah, she’s a pretty smart woman. Don’t hold on to the wrong person, or try to mold him or her into what you want. All you are doing is delaying your inevitable happiness. One of my friends was explaining to me the other day about a new guy that she is dating. She said something along the lines of “I hate to say this, but [my guy now] does such-and-such and I like it, it reminds me of something [my ex] used to do, but I don’t want to compare them.” She is not comparing them, THIS IS PROOF!!! She put into her emotional vortex an attribute that she liked from someone she dated and the Universe gave her a guy that had that same quality. Now, this isn’t to say that she will end up with the current guy, or she may, but it shows that the Universe is there and it is listening! We just have to get to the point where we have learned everything that we want for ourselves and we understand the things that we do not. It’s not a fate thing, you have to go out there and learn! All I can say is that when you put out into the Universe the kind of person you want, it will deliver it. We have to be patient. It’s not easy and I have to remind myself of this a lot…especially after I have dealt with a ‘contrast’ guy. But, sometimes it’s helpful to know that we are being taken care of. The Universe knows what it is doing, even if we don’t. And, try to listen to the Universe when it’s being painfully obvious in trying to show you that it does not want you with the person you are currently settling for. It’s so interesting to look back at some of my dating experiences and see that no matter what I tried, I just couldn’t get the person I THOUGHT I wanted. It was so frustrating, but it was just the Universe stepping in and helping me out. It was making sure that I couldn’t get the one that wasn’t right for me so that I could keep myself open for the one that is. So, go out and date and put things in your yes and no pile.
Understand this:
The person you were unable to get no matter how hard you tried, or the person that you miss because you think you should have been with him or her was not your perfect person, it just doesn’t work that way!
Thoughts With Wings 